We’re Romeo and Juliet, We’re Bunny and Clyde, We’re the lovers of Teruel. Yes we’re the resistance. Can you define what is love? Ok let me try love isn’t a rocket science,love is neither eternal nor a taboo it’s simply a positive vibe or emotion developed in Homo sapians usually  after twenty. More specifically it’s a complex response produced by the hormone oxytocin which is secreated by the hypothalamus of a mature brain(usually after twenty). So never blame your heart while falling in love. She’s innocent. The real devil is the brain and anything which is created by human brain is natural. Hence love can’t be eternal. It’s simply a call of nature and anything natural can’t be taboo.

I’ve been working as a motivational speaker since months. I’ve so many clients mostly youths of my age. The most common thing in their tragic story is about their love life. Love has sucked their life, screwed them and make them what we commonly called as ” Chutiyaaa”(no offense please). Is this possible? Love is devil or what? How a positive vibe can ruined one’s life? I’ve asked these questions to me for several times and finally I got something. It may be helpful you or may not be. During your previous relationship you’ve listened so much of stupid commitments from your partner. All these commitments are so sweet but at the end of the day these commitments simply screwed you. My words are bitter but practical enough. If you can digest them it may help you. So it’s upto you. If you’re interested you can read the entire story or you can simply skip and listen ” Yeh Duniya Yeh Mehfil Mere Kaam Ki Nahin” with your gloomy eyes and runny nose. So the choice is yours.

While dealing with my clients in most of the time I found that problem arises due to their misinterpretation about love. Some people believe that love is divine,love is eternal,where there is love there is God and blah blah blah. On the other hand some people find it very difficult to accept the call of nature by considering love as a taboo. Love is a natural feeling more precisely a positive feeling. So like any other positive feelings (e.g. happiness, respect) it is natural and beautiful. But it can’t be eternal and can’t be a taboo. Before falling in love first try to admit it’s normal, it’s natural, it’s neither divine nor a taboo and try to avoid all these conspiracy theories about love. If you can perfectly understand it then it’ll be off course easy for you to deal with.

Now I want to ask you a question why we fall in love with a particular person not with everyone. I think the answer is compataliblity. Some people believe that love isn’t a trade. Yes off course love isn’t a trade. But to fall in love with someone he should meet our certain needs then only dopamine (the hormone for crush) is replaced by  oxytocin (the love hormone). So only after a successful trade hypothalamus triggers the oxytocin secreation. Everyone has a ideal type in their brain for their partners. But it’s too difficult to meet 100% of your requirements. In one word perfectness never exists. So we look for the most compatible option. But with time your beloved one may be changed (not physically but emotionally). Love exists for personality too. That’s why we can’t feel the same emotion towards a carbon copy with a contrasting personality. So it’s merely worthless to love that person. Your beloved one is now different not the same one once you loved. So first confess everything to your partner and make request to be the previous version. If it’s possible then fine and if not simply leave before the things get pretty ugly and ruin your life. Sometime you find someone more compatible and feel a more strong sense of attraction with the new person. Yes it’s natural and possible. Let it confess. You’ve full freedom to live your life with your own choice because at the end of the day your own satisfaction matters you the most. But never try to keep your partner in dark. Leaving your partner for a more compatible option is natural and better for both of you and it’s not betrayal but keeping your partner in dark is betrayal.

If your love is like an emotional bonding for you then let me clear you my dear friend this is not love this is a strong attraction more precisely an emotional addiction only. People love freedom and Independence. So in true sense a bonding can’t be loved whether it’s physical or emotional. An emotional bonding is accompanied by four evil feelings- expectations, responsibilities,rights and ego. Expectations are beautiful but they mostly hurt us. By nature people hate responsibilities as we want to live our life with full freedom. Where there is right ego and complain are always there and ego is alone capable to convert any beautiful thing into a ugly one within a fraction of second. There is always a fine line exists between love and possession(attraction). The first one is beautiful because it lacks these four evils but second one is extremely poisonous and evil.

If you can digest all these three arguments then now you’ve no fear for betrayal or to lose someone. Only a fearless soul can enjoy the beauty of life and love too. If you don’t have any fear to loose your partner then remember there are very less probability of mistakes from your side. So hopefully you’ll always remain compitable in your relationship. But sometimes mistake may be from the opposite site then it’ll be fine too because now you’ve no fear to loose someone. If there is no fear then there is no pain. Your love one is just like a beautiful breeze but not the oxygen molecules that allow us to live. Breeze is beautiful but it’s also possible to live without the breeze. Love is a kind of emotional luxury. If you’re with a compitable person then you’re lucky enough and of not then it’s fine may be in the future. Until you find the most compitable partner makes a lot of crush, try to write some sugar coated romantic quotes and poem and enjoy the beauty of your bachelor life in a wild manner. Once you fall in love you’ll be so happy but it’s also true that you’ll miss these beautiful and wild because love finally turn you into a domestic creature.